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Monday, December 22, 2014

Wishing Doesn't Make It So

I plan to post here on Lifelines every Monday. Some posts may be humorous but all will be insightful. I hope you find this blog inspiring and entertaining, perhaps finding a nugget of wisdom to help you in days to come. In the right sidebar you can sign up to follow the blog and never miss when a new post goes up. Also in the right sidebar you can join my mailing list and receive my newsletter, which has a book giveaway in each issue.


"Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can't build on it; it is good only for wallowing."
--Katherine Mansfield, New Zealand writer (1888-1923)

From Merriam-Webster Dictionary Online: "regret:
sorrow aroused by circumstances beyond one's control or power to repair."

Regret is not productive; it doesn't fix anything, it doesn't change anything. What it does is put our mind in a negative mode. And negative thinking has no good purpose. When we look back with regret to that guy or gal whom we wonder we should have married but didn't, does it change anything? No.

When we look back with regret to a time when we were at a forks in the road and now we think we took a wrong turn, does it change anything? No. We could go on and on looking back and wishing something from the past were different.

But regretting and wishing don't make it so. Let's don't spend much time on either of them. We'll just be taking time away from something good that is in store for us in the present. I've used this quotation before but here it is again. Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift; that's why they call it the present." Yesterday. Don't we know that today is yesterday's
future and yesterday is no more?

I read an excellent little book by Andy Andrews: The Noticer. Whether you're young or not-so-young, male or female, despondent or happy, this book is for you. Its underlying theme is looking at things with perspective. Andrews writes in the book that "sometimes all a person needs is a little perspective" and situations look a lot different, better. He writes about perspective in relation to regret.

Here's hoping we can shake off all that regret about something in our history and go forward to better things. We can't drive the car forward very well while looking in the rear view mirror.


  1. What an excellent post! I have read The Noticer and felt it was a fantastic book. I, like you, feel like all should read it.

    Merry Christmas, Miss Jo!

    mauback55 at gmail dot com

    1. Melanie, glad you enjoyed the post. Thanks for sharing about reading The Noticer. I love the books by Andy Andrews that I have read.