"Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can't build on it; it is good only for wallowing."
--Katherine Mansfield, New Zealand writer (1888-1923)
From Merriam-Webster Dictionary Online: "regret:
Regret is not productive; it doesn't fix anything, it doesn't change anything. What it does is put our mind in a negative mode. And negative thinking has no good purpose. When we look back with regret to that guy or gal whom we wonder we should have married but didn't, does it change anything? No.
When we look back with regret to a time when we were at a forks in the road and now we think we took a wrong turn, does it change anything? No. We could go on and on looking back and wishing something from the past were different.
But regretting and wishing don't make it so. Let's don't spend much time on either of them. We'll just be taking time away from something good that is in store for us in the present. I've used this quotation before but here it is again. Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift; that's why they call it the present." Yesterday. Don't we know that today is yesterday's
I read an excellent little book by Andy Andrews: The Noticer. Whether you're young or not-so-young, male or female, despondent or happy, this book is for you. Its underlying theme is looking at things with perspective. Andrews writes in the book that "sometimes all a person needs is a little perspective" and situations look a lot different, better. He writes about perspective in relation to regret.
Here's hoping we can shake off all that regret about something in our history and go forward to better things. We can't drive the car forward very well while looking in the rear view mirror.